I am so happy with my darling Ron & love our life together. Sometimes I feel guilty to be so happy when others are struggling with their lives, but I have learnt over the last 5 years that you must treat yourself with love and respect. I used to put myself last as many of us do, but now I understand unless you fill yourself up first, you have nothing to give to anybody else. When you make feeling good a priority, and do what makes you feel good, you will radiate those feelings of love and touch everyone close to you. I love that my name Helen means ‘light’ and hope I can shine my light to help others find the way.

It has not always been this way, I used to sacrifice myself for others, I thought that was what a good person does. When I put myself last I unfortunately attracted feelings of being unworthy and undeserving. These feelings eventually lead to resentment and you fall into the trap of waiting for someone else to repay you. Instead if you take time for yourself, give to yourself & love yourself, to a point where you can overflow with giving & loving, then you will become a magnet. At times I still feel guilty when I am being ‘selfish’, letting my partner Ron look after me, but I realise that he enjoys doing things for me just like I enjoy doing things for him, & it strengthens our relationship & love.

Giving love to other people does not mean letting people walk all over you or abuse you in any way. Allowing another person to use you doesn’t help the other person or you, but if you can maintain your loving feelings and not allow the other person to hurt you, then you can rise above the situation & maintain your positive energy. I feel sorry for people who surround themselves with negativity rather than seeing the good things around them, as they only attract more negativity. Trying to change another person is not loving, criticising or finding fault with another person is not loving, you have to notice the things you love in another person & turn away from the things you don’t. Positive thoughts attract positive results.

Every day is a gift, & we need to focus on the present to live life to the fullest. This is very hard for all of us, we have enormous difficulty focusing on the present, we tend to think about what we did & how we could have done it better. Or else we think about the future & worry about what might happen instead of focusing on what we want to happen. This is a tough one for me, but I think I am slowly learning to let the past be, not worry so much, dream for the future & enjoy the present.

I think last but not least is making the most of what we have, our happiness is not created by another person or place but by ourselves. We can be very happy with very little, if we wake up each day & give thanks for what we have, make a conscious effort to notice all the things around us that we love,  be excited about the possibility the day holds for us, we will be happy. If we can understand it is our thoughts & moods, not the world around us that dictates our happiness, we will attract more good things into our lives & therefore more happiness. Your power is in your thoughts, think happy! Helen

Inspiration & ideas from:

‘The Secret’ & ‘The Power’ by Rhonda Byrne

‘Aleph’ by Paulo Coelho